Wednesday, December 23, 2009

The Forgotten Man

I don't know... I posted this last year and it just seems like a good time to remind myself...

I've been looking through old photos and delighting in the happy memories, and sighing that time has flown by so quickly.

I stumbled upon this photo - Mr. Daddy and Itty Bit when he was just a few hours old.  It was taken in the wee hours of the morning after an exhilarating and tiring day.

There's nothing quite like a father's love, is there?

And I was struck by how often our brain automatically completes the original Christmas story... we know all the characters: Mary and Joseph and Baby Jesus.  Angels and shepherds and wisemen and a meanie king.

At least for me, my mind often slips right past Joseph.  The man who held that brand new infant and had to think about the huge task before him.  How to raise the Son of God when he was an imperfect man himself.  How to be married to the Mother of God and share the knowledge that their son was sent as a sacrifice.

And I'm grateful.  Mary often gets the credit, but knowing that Joseph was REAL - as real as the picture above - just blows me away.

The rest of the post from last year - puts it in perspective for me when I consider that that perfect child's Heavenly Father had to love beyon human understanding to send His son.

Several years ago I was invited to dance at a Christmas Eve service. I was all set to go with Welcome to Our World by Chris Rice - beautiful and simple lyrics.

As I drove there, a recent article I'd read popped into my head.

It was about a family who had a very sick child. One that would die without a bone marrow transplant. They'd had no success in finding a match, and had made the decision to attempt to conceive another child who could be a match and save the older sibling's life.

The human side of me thought it was such a clinical-sounding decision.

The value of that new baby was just to help another child?

And on that cold winter night as my car pulled into the church parking lot in front of their lit Nativity display... I realized that God had made that decision for us.

He sent a baby. The only one in the world who would have the right blood type to save us. The only one who could heal us and give us life.

Only He knew that it would cost everything.

If it does not leave you speechless to understand truly - that the Creator of the universe saw fit to do that for YOU... I can only think it is too big to grasp - like it is for me. You and I were, are, that important to Him.

I've experienced delivering a child and not knowing if he would live.  But to know before that moment?  To have watched my sister deliver Gracie, knowing that her time on earth would be short?  I can tell you from experience that it does not, can not take away from the amazing realization that in the brand new life, you've just seen a gift from the hand of God.

Somehow - knowing all that would come - there had to be that amazing miraculous stillness once the Son of God was in his parents' arms.  Isn't that as close to Heaven as it gets?

Silent night
Holy night
All is calm
All is bright
'Round yon virgin
Mother and child
Holy infant so tender and mild
Sleep in Heavenly peace
Sleep in Heavenly peace


MrsMann said...

Great post Rach! Merry Christmas to you, Mr. Daddy and Itty Bit!

Kmama said...

What an insightful post. Those pictures are absolutely beautiful. I hope you all have a very Merry Christmas.

Anonymous said...

I only recently started following your blog, and after reading the reference to your sister's daughter Gracie, I read back through all the posts tagged with her name. My heart aches for's a horribly familiar ache. My sister's first born, our little Ava, was stillborn in 2006, only 3 weeks before her due date. She's our angel now, and not a day goes by that we don't ache for her, an ache that I'm sure you're familiar with yourself. What you have done with the Sufficient Grace Ministries is wonderful, and I cried more while reading through those comments.

I don't know where I'm going with this. I guess just to reach out to another auntie of an angel, to someone else who had to watch helplessly as her sister suffer in a way that no mother should ever suffer. I'm so, so very sorry for your loss, for your family's loss. Thank you for sharing little Gracie's story with everyone. By sharing thier stories, the memories of our littlest angels stay alive.

He & Me + 3 said...

BEautiful post Rachel. So touching. It is unbelievable the sacrifice that He made for us...all because He loves us. What a sweet picture of Itty Bit! May you and your family have a very Merry Christmas.

Foursons said...

Beautifully written Rachel. Have a very Merry Christmas with the blessing you call family.

Unknown said...

Glad to see you drop by today. (And glad you liked the cartoon - if you visit now you'll see the *real* story behind Santa's tardiness. {*grin*})

Enjoy a Merry Christmas with those near and dear.

Brandi said...

Just beautiful, Rach.

I hope you and your family have a lovely holiday. Merry Christmas! :)

Pam D said...

Beautiful, Rachel... the words AND the pictures. One of my very favorite songs now is "Joseph's Song" by Mercy Me. Truly, what DID go through Joseph's head as he looked down at that tiny baby in a rustic manger? As light flooded the sky, and strange and stinky shepherds fumbled their way into the stall, needing to see what the angels were singing about? Someday, I hope to sit down with him and Mary and find out exactly how it all went down....
Blessings to you, Mr. Daddy, and Itty Bit.. may 2010 be the best year yet for all of you! {{{hugs}}}

Emily said...

So sweet! You're is easy to overlook Joseph, but he did play such a huge role. Merry Christmas!

Unknown said...

You have filled my eyes with joyous tears...Merry Christmas Rachel, Mr Daddy and sweet little Itty Bit.

HeatherOz said...

Oh, that was just beautiful Rachel!! Thank you! said...

so, so, sweet!

~Merry Christmas to your wonderful family!~

Lisa said...

I have meant to comment WAY before now, but time keeps getting away from me. This is a wonderful post, and it touched me today. Hope you, Itty Bit & Mr. Daddy have the most wonderful Christmas ever and God Bless you, my friend.

Territory Mom said...

Absolutely beautiful. It puts everything into perspective. Thank you and Merry Christmas.

brian said...

Great post...

danette said...

Beautiful post Rachel... all of it. Hard to put into words, but this really touched me. Thank you.

I hope you and your family had a blessed Christmas!

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