Saturday, January 14, 2012

Common Paths–by Mr. Daddy

We all share common paths in life, but we all walk lonely roads.


Roads oft time so dismal and bleak that despair is the only companion in sight.


While we shadowbox with our grief, and wrestle with our anguish, time continues on at the uninterrupted pace of 60 seconds in a minute, and 60 minutes per hour, 24 hours per day, 7 days a week.

Without becoming redundant, suffice it to say life goes on. In an uninterrupted pattern of joy and pain, that we have little to no control over...


Now in saying we have little to no control, I am not suggesting it should control us.  Or that we should be fatalistic in our views.


In the words of Jawaharlal Nehru:

Life is like a game of cards. The hand you are dealt is determinism; the way you play it is free will.


I believe that our attitude is the key to whether we win or lose. The common path we share in this is summed up by W. Clement Stone:


"There is a little difference in people, but that little difference makes a big difference. The little difference is attitude. The big difference is whether it is positive or negative."


Or as Kahil Gibran puts it:

"Your living is determined not so much by what life brings to you as by the attitude you bring to life; not so much by what happens to you as by the way your mind looks at what happens."


I think the summing up of this is best described by Francesca Reigle:


"Happiness is an attitude, we either make ourselves miserable, or happy and strong, the amount of work is the same."


Rach, mentioned in her last post that it seemed as if life had kinda taken a dump on us lately.  Looking back over the last three and a half months, I think that you will agree that, that is a pretty good assessment.


Since losing Mom on Oct 3rd to a cancerous brain tumor, I have lost 3 pretty close friends: one to a freak hunting accident, and two to massive heart attacks, and another 4 in the community from everything from a motorcycle accident to Alzheimer's...


this seems to be the relationship that I have come to with the grim reaper....

a humble gift

I know in my heart that he will never win, but for a bit I would really like to broker a truce.  But alas, the dude just doesn't want to deal. He throws a sucker punch in the form of a little lump on my thyroid.


Yep the doc told us last week that he was 95% sure that it was a rare type of thyroid cancer.  (Does that make me special??? :o)


He set a surgery date of the 18th and more tests - 4d ultrasound which ended up in two more biopsies :o( yesterday. (It wasn't too bad but if I'd a had my druthers I would have rather went to the zoo...)


Now I don't want to sound unthankful or anything but y’all bout burned up Rach's phone with your support. And for that there are not enough words of thanks, or an adequate way of expressing it..
SSSSOooooooo!!!!!


THANKS :o)


As we were waiting for the testing to start I was reading a book by James Merritt, and this is what I read:


"The law says, "What's mine is mine; I'll keep it."
"Our lust says. "What's yours is mine; I'll take it."
"True love says, What's mine is yours' I'll share it."


Love sets off a divine chain reaction. Love is the spark that kindles the fire of compassion. Compassion is the fire that lights the candle of service. Service is the candle that ignites the torch of hope. Hope is the torch that lights the beacon of faith. Faith is the beacon that reflects the power of God. And God is the power that creates the miracle of love.

The way of love is not only the right way, it is the best way. You can experience nothing as self-gratifying or encouraging as loving others through both words and deeds.."


There is a qoute by: Elisabeth Kubler-Ross

“People are like stained-glass windows. They sparkle and shine when the sun is out, but when the darkness sets in their true beauty is revealed only if there is light from within.”

We are truly blessed by a network of friends and family, I would like to give a special thanks to Linny and DW, while their little one was in the ER and awaiting critical brain surgery, (please say a prayer for her) they took the time to call and say a prayer the night before my testing and text to keep track while it was going on, and also to Julie, and Brandi & Scott, Pam D., Mrs. Mom, GunDiva, Beel and Juanita, Ju, Dana, Brian and so many more who blogged, texted, and messaged....

I had never heard of a virtual pastor before, thanks DW... (the call came at just the right moment:o) nor had I been aware of virtual family...Thank you I hope you feel my virtual hugs. And realize how brightly the light  shone from within you.

The commons are the mountain top and valley experiences.  What transcends that, the uncommon is our attitude in it...

Antoine de Saint-Exuper once said


"It is only with the heart that one can see rightly; what is essential is invisible to the eye."

and with that I will leave you with one of my favorite Psalms,  51:10

Create in me a clean heart O God,

and renew a right spirit within me.

32 comments:

Foursons said...

Prayers are fervently being sent up on behalf of you, Rachel, and Itty Bit from the west to east coast. Literally. I have full faith that God will eradicate every last cancer cell from your body- even if the cancer is rare. It will be your name in the medical books teaching others how to cure this kind of cancer. Hang in there and fight the good fight Mr. D. We're all in this with you fighting for from our own corners.

Foursons said...

That forth from the last word "for" should be deleted. Sorry. *sigh*

sara said...

praying for you from my corner...the south!

Allenspark Lodge said...

"if I'd a had my druthers I would have rather went to the zoo..."

Denver has a pretty good one. Kick this and come on down. I'll treat the family.

Bill

Saimi said...

Great post of wonderful words of inspiration. One can never get enough of good advice and please know that you truly are in my prayers!

lifebythecreek said...

So, I think that once you've shown this rare cancer that it ain't all that, you should do a zoo TOUR. I'm sure that a lot of us have zoos in the area, so just plot it out and drive... we'll all put you up and take care of you while you're in our "house". :<) And in the meantime, I'm thinking of a way to make a hat that says "I'm Kicking cancer's Hairy Butt!" If you're on Facebook, you'll get that one...

Praying.. and knowing that this cancer isn't rare to God. He knows it, and He knows you, and He's got it covered. (((hugs))) friend...

Brandi said...

LOL - Hairy Butt! Mr. D needs that hat ASAP! ;)

Our zoo sucks, BTW, but the beach more than makes up for it. We're ready for y'all whenever y'all are ready for a vacay! ;)

Alright, Mr. D., my FAVOR is revving over here. I'm claiming favor over your doctors, your surgery, your healing, your recovery. I'm with Jules all the way... I BELIEVE to the very depths that good (HA - I typed 'God' at first by accident) things are coming for you and Rach.

Prayers, as always.

{{JUGS}} and {{HIGS}} to both of you.

robin said...

Good to hear from you...I've been keeping you in my prayers and will continue to do so! Good luck in the upcoming surgery (and any more stuff that might happen before then!)

Amy said...

We serve and awesome God, one who works good for those who love Him... one who can heal.... one who can comfort.... a God who can do ALL THINGS!

HE listens. He hears every cry that we are sending out for you!

You and Rach both write so eloquently and I could just read it all night long! Your faith humbles me and I pray that I can keep my chin up with the ease you exhibit when my trials come.

Praying for you always!

Michaela@Life With the Crazies said...

This was beautiful... Praying for wonderful news.

Lisa said...

Praying here in the east. We all love Mr. Daddy and Rachel, and we will lift you and your family up to God for as long as we need. (Well, we always need it, but you know what I mean.) You both are a great light even in the midst of tragedy.

Anonymous said...

Praying for you, Mr Daddy and your family.
Love,
From Wisconsin

Candance said...

A gorilla once got loose in one of our zoos. Mayhem ensued and I can't remember what ended up happening. But the Frank Buck Zoo is way better anyway because it has rabbits and you can ride the train for $1.00. You can't even get a coke for that these days.

I'm not good with the emotional stuff, so just know I'm sending lots of good vibes your way and I totally know you'll kick this thing in its hateful buttocks!

Mom of M&Ms said...

ya know I keep praying and so joined by so many...

Floortime Lite Mama said...

My heart breaks for you Mr Daddy and Rachel
Your grace and strength is always amazing
Sending you so much love and prayer

Beth Zimmerman said...

I really need to get Rachel's text number! Praying for you guys!

GunDiva said...

I'll throw in a night at Casa Bonita with Beel's zoo trip! (I can hear Beel groan from here *snort*)

You know I'm not good with the touchy feely stuff (just ask Mrs Mom - she loves to tell me she loves me just to watch me squirm), but the world is a much better place with your family in it and I'm thankful that you're sharing your lives with us.

Cancer sucks, and when you've kicked it's butt, come visit; we'll blow stuff up, you can ride your quad, Rach and I will ride the four-leggeds and we'll eat really terrible Mexican food at Casa Bonita! (Yes, Beel, we're going there, too, right after the zoo.)

Judy SheldonWalker said...

Mr Daddy this is truly a moving post. You and yours have my prayers and my faith. God is the great physician and nothing is beyond Him!
As you face these days, eat healthy as nutrition plays a very big part in our health and immune system.

MrsMann said...

The words have really already been said above. But I want you to know I am praying here in my corner of Virginia. And you and Rach's courage and "get back up and keep on riding" attitude is amazingly inspiring. We don't always understand His ways, but we just have to remember He is in control. We are all lifting you up and believing in the healing our Father is going to do in you.

julie in memphis said...

I whole-heartedly second the zoo tour idea! Memphis has a good zoo, plus where I used to live was not too far from the NC Zoo, which is still my favorite zoo in the whole world (I have to disagree with Memphis calling itself "America's favorite zoo" or whatever it is they keep claiming to be). So you kick that cancer in the fanny and come on over to Memphis, and then we'll all go to the NC Zoo (so that you can agree with me that it's better).

Seriously, though... your reflections are amazing. I can't believe Rachel is willing to share you with the whole blogosphere... but I'm glad she does. Keep that mustachioed head o'yours up! Hopes and prayers are coming your way!

Stacy said...

You continue to be in my prayers, Mr. Daddy. I am sorry you have to go through this after the hurtful months you have had already. You will definitely be prayed for, and here's a virtual ((((hug)))).

Fire Wife Katie said...

Your family continues to be in my prayers! (((HUGS!)))

Emmy said...

Thank you for posting. And yes, you will continue to be in The prayers of so many.

Lexie Loo, Lily Boo, and Dylan Too! said...

Sending prayers to you, Mr. Daddy!

Bethany said...

Praying for you and your family as you walk this path. I know God has you firmly in His hand! Trusting him for grace and strength in the days ahead, faith that is strengthened, joy in the midst of this, and blessings beyond measure as he carries you.

Danielle said...

Sucks to get dealt such crappy hands. But to see the positive attitude and how much faith you guys have is such a testament! You guys are amazing and with all our prayers, I know you'll keep your heads up.
Much love

Danielle

He & Me + 3 said...

I have been where you are and it is scary. I am praying that the God of all peace gives you just that. Praying for healing and restoration. He is faithful!

Mom Of Many said...

You all are a pleasure to pastor from afar. We love you all dearly. Praying with passion for Jehovah Rapha's powerful and very real touch. xo

Melody said...

Love and prayers...

NaomiG said...

The night is always darkest right before the sun rises. I hope the sun shines brilliantly for you shortly. Prayers!

Arizaphale said...

New reader over from Land of KA. Feeling for y'all and sending prayers from Australia.

Jess said...

HANG IN THERE hon! I have heard about more ladies lately having this "rare" type of cancer. And I've also heard over and over, if there is one type of cancer to have, this is it. So cureable. (hugs)

I'm so sorry for all you've been through lately. It just isn't fair. But you can do this. If there is one thing that shines through loud and clear on this blog, (besides how funny you are) YOU ARE STRONG. And your amazing attitude (and God and your friends) will carry you through.